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Reading Unit 6
Reading Comprehension
Love stories generally build up to a romantic climax and then end, leaving us with the impression that the couple lived happily ever after. Sadly, the reality is rarely as rosy as this.
In the first flush of love nothing much matter beyond being together - no sacrifice is too great if it helps you spend more time with the person whose mere presence intoxicates you. But when the intoxication starts to wear off, as it does unfortunately, little misunderstandings start occurring, causing friction, irritation, long cold silences or angry rows and the rosy image of love can give way to a deep sense of disillusion. Why is there this friction between men and women? John Gray thinks he knows the answer. The root cause of the problem, apparently, is that men and women don't understand just how different they are emotionally. Men and women respond to problems in very different ways and consequently have very different emotional needs. When people insist on their own needs and fail to properly appreciate the needs of their partners there is bound to be friction. Women, typically, deal with problems and stresses by talking about how they feel. A woman may easily feel overwhelmed and by talking she will find relief and feel less upset. There is no need necessarily to deal with the practicalities of the problem - they are of secondary significance. What really matters is expressing herself, exploring her emotions and getting the support from a loving relationship in which she feels that she is understood. Whereas women want to talk and talk about their problems, men withdraw into the caves of their mind to focus on solving the problem. A man's self-esteem is built on a sense of how competent he is, so he feels he must develop the skills to solve his problems on his own. Asking for help or expressing how terrible you feel is perceived as an admission of weakness and incompetence. Rather than looking for understanding, men want their partners to admire them for the way they achieve their goals.
To illustrate a typical lack of understanding Gray describes the following scenario: a man and a woman return home burdened by their respective problems - he has been sitting on the train or in his car silently trying to work out the problems of the day, but they seem insoluble and a guy like this, when he gets home, is likely to have a burning need to just sit in front of the telly or play a game just to take his mind off his problems and find a way to gradually relax. But just when he is trying to forget a confusing and problematic reality, his partner wants him to listen as she pours out all her problems and look for support and understanding. If he has the energy, he may tolerate this just enough to work out what the main problem is, then he will bluntly suggest a solution before returning to the TV or the game. But the woman doesn't want solutions - she wants a kind ear and someone to embrace her. Each annoys the other: he with his silence and she with her continual moaning.
The more busy life becomes, the greater this friction will be. As the problems men face seem greater and more intractable, the more they need to escape and the less they are able to patiently sit and lovingly listen to their partner's frustrations. The more demanding a woman's life becomes, the greater her emotional turmoil is and the more she has to express. If her partner is glued to the TV or out skydiving all the time, they will grow further and further apart.
John Gray, whose job is to provide counseling for couples, is optimistic. With a little help he thinks men and women can understand each other better and learn to respect their differences. He thinks that women can start to respect that men need to withdraw to cope with stress and they can realize that this doesn't mean that they no longer love them. And he is convinced that men can find that listening to their partner talk about her problems could actually help them come out of their caves in the same way as watching TV or skydiving. Apparently, men need to be needed. By learning to listen without giving solutions they can see how much of a positive difference they can make in their partner's life and thus appreciate how important they are. So the key to keeping the flames of love alight would seem to be less telly and more listening.
Choose the best answer for the following questions:
1
Who is John Gray?
2
What can be inferred from the reading?
3
According to John Gray, how do women solve stressful problems?
4
According to John Gray, how do men solve stressful problems?
5
Why do men hardly ever ask their partners for help?
6
The word “scenario” in the third paragraph has the closest meaning to:
7
According to John Gray, what can women do to maintain a relationship?
8
8. According to John Gray, what can men do to maintain a relationship?
New words/ New phrases
Intoxicate:
/ɪnˈtɑːksɪkeɪt/
(v.)
làm say sưa, làm say đắm
Intoxication:
/ɪnˌtɑːksɪˈkeɪʃn/
(n.)
sự say sưa, sự say đắm
No sacrifice is too great if it helps you spend more time with the person whose mere presence intoxicates you.
When she thought that he was there at hand, waiting for her, she grew numb with the intoxication of expectancy.
Friction:
/ˈfrɪkʃn/
(n.)
sự xích mích
When people insist on their own needs and fail to properly appreciate the needs of their partners there is bound to be friction.
Conflicts and frictions still have to be resolved.
Disillusion:
/ˌdɪsɪˈluːʒn/
(n.)
sự vỡ mộng, sự tan vỡ ảo tưởng; tâm trạng vỡ mộng
(v.)
làm vỡ mộng, làm tan vỡ ảo tưởng
The rosy image of love can give way to a deep sense of disillusion.
I hate to disillusion you, but not everyone is as honest as you.
Self-esteem:
/Self ɪˈstiːm/
(n.)
lòng tự trọng
A man's self-esteem is built on a sense of how competent he is, so he feels he must develop the skills to solve his problems on his own.
What he saw in the mirror did not gratify his self-esteem.
Incompetence:
/ɪnˈkɑːmpɪtəns/
(n.)
Sự thiếu khả năng, sự thiếu trình độ, sự kém cỏi, sự bất tài
Asking for help or expressing how terrible you feel is perceived as an admission of weakness and incompetence.
He was dismissed for incompetence.
Insoluble:
/ɪnˈsɑːljəbl/
(adj.)
Không giải quyết được
A man has been sitting on the train or in his car silently trying to work out the problems of the day, but they seem insoluble.
It was too dreadful to be under the burden of these insoluble problems, so he abandoned himself to any distraction in order to forget them.
Bluntly:
/ˈblʌntli/
(adv.)
Thẳng thừng, thẳng toẹt
If he has the energy, he may tolerate this just enough to work out what the main problem is, then he will bluntly suggest a solution before returning to the TV or the game.
She told me bluntly that I should lose weight.
Intractable:
/ɪnˈtræktəbl/
(adj.)
Nan giải, khó giải quyết
As the problems men face seem greater and more intractable, the more they need to escape and the less they are able to patiently sit and lovingly listen to their partner's frustrations.
Unemployment was proving to be an intractable problem.
Turmoil:
/ˈtɜːrmɔɪl/
(n.)
Sự rối loạn, sự hỗn độn, tình trạng lộn xộn
The more demanding a woman's life becomes, the greater her emotional turmoil is and the more she has to express.
She felt much calmer after the turmoil of recent weeks.
Wear off:
/Wer ɔːf/
(v. phr.)
Phai nhạt, nguội lạnh, dần dần mất đi
But when the intoxication starts to wear off, as it does unfortunately, little misunderstandings start occurring, causing friction, irritation, long cold silences or angry rows.
The novelty of married life was beginning to wear off.
Practice:

Question 9 – Question 12: Choose and type the correct words that match the following definitions:

9
To destroy somebody's belief in or good opinion of somebody/something.
10
Disagreement among people who have different opinions about something.
11
A feeling of being happy with your own character and abilities.
12
Cannot be solved or explained

Question 13 – Question 16: Choose and type the correct words that match the following definitions:

13
To put it   , I want a divorce.
14
Unemployment was proving to be an   problem.
15
He was dismissed for professional  
16
The effects of the drug will soon  
Translation
Love stories generally build up to a romantic climax and then end, leaving us with the impression that the couple lived happily ever after. Sadly, the reality is rarely as rosy as this.
In the first flush of love nothing much matter beyond being together - no sacrifice is too great if it helps you spend more time with the person whose mere presence intoxicates you. But when the intoxication starts to wear off, as it does unfortunately, little misunderstandings start occurring, causing friction, irritation, long cold silences or angry rows and the rosy image of love can give way to a deep sense of disillusion.
Why is there this friction between men and women? John Gray thinks he knows the answer. The root cause of the problem, apparently, is that men and women don't understand just how different they are emotionally. Men and women respond to problems in very different ways and consequently have very different emotional needs. When people insist on their own needs and fail to properly appreciate the needs of their partners there is bound to be friction.
Women, typically, deal with problems and stresses by talking about how they feel. A woman may easily feel overwhelmed and by talking she will find relief and feel less upset. There is no need necessarily to deal with the practicalities of the problem - they are of secondary significance. What really matters is expressing herself, exploring her emotions and getting the support from a loving relationship in which she feels that she is understood.
Whereas women want to talk and talk about their problems, men withdraw into the caves of their mind to focus on solving the problem. A man's self-esteem is built on a sense of how competent he is, so he feels he must develop the skills to solve his problems on his own. Asking for help or expressing how terrible you feel is perceived as an admission of weakness and incompetence. Rather than looking for understanding, men want their partners to admire them for the way they achieve their goals.
To illustrate a typical lack of understanding Gray describes the following scenario: a man and a woman return home burdened by their respective problems - he has been sitting on the train or in his car silently trying to work out the problems of the day, but they seem insoluble and a guy like this, when he gets home, is likely to have a burning need to just sit in front of the telly or play a game just to take his mind off his problems and find a way to gradually relax. But just when he is trying to forget a confusing and problematic reality, his partner wants him to listen as she pours out all her problems and look for support and understanding. If he has the energy, he may tolerate this just enough to work out what the main problem is, then he will bluntly suggest a solution before returning to the TV or the game. But the woman doesn't want solutions - she wants a kind ear and someone to embrace her. Each annoys the other: he with his silence and she with her continual moaning.
The more busy life becomes, the greater this friction will be. As the problems men face seem greater and more intractable, the more they need to escape and the less they are able to patiently sit and lovingly listen to their partner's frustrations. The more demanding a woman's life becomes, the greater her emotional turmoil is and the more she has to express. If her partner is glued to the TV or out skydiving all the time, they will grow further and further apart.
John Gray, whose job is to provide counseling for couples, is optimistic. With a little help he thinks men and women can understand each other better and learn to respect their differences. He thinks that women can start to respect that men need to withdraw to cope with stress and they can realize that this doesn't mean that they no longer love them. And he is convinced that men can find that listening to their partner talk about her problems could actually help them come out of their caves in the same way as watching TV or skydiving. Apparently, men need to be needed. By learning to listen without giving solutions they can see how much of a positive difference they can make in their partner's life and thus appreciate how important they are. So the key to keeping the flames of love alight would seem to be less telly and more listening.
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